Fear Inducing Expectations
The novel, “Parable of the Sower” by Octavia Butler focuses on the life of a fictional character named Lauren Olamina. Who lives in a gated community in a big family; One of her main family members that the audience is introduced to in the very beginning is her father who’s a preacher. Throughout the first couple chapters of the novel, Butler pushes the clashing perspectives between Lauren and her father, and we see how Lauren internalizes these differences. Through this, Butler forms the argument that expectations from parent to offspring leaves internalizing fear on the child.
Instantly, we’re greeted to Lauren’s emotional state when it comes to her father through a reoccurring dream. Lauren mentions how this dream only occurs during times of struggle, stating that it occurs when she tries to, “…pretend that nothing unusual is happening. It comes to me when I try to be my father’s daughter…Tomorrow, I’ll try to please him…” (Butler, Pg. 3) This piece of evidence emphasizes the pressure that she feels from her father. Specifically saying that she must “try” to be her “father’s daughter” indicates the father has personal expectations for his daughter to meet that the daughter doesn’t agree with; and despite her not agreeing, she still must conform and “try” by masking herself in the hopes that she’s a good daughter to him. An example of this can be found when we look into Lauren’s religious beliefs. In Chapter 2, Lauren highlights her idea of God and religion, and we see that Lauren isn’t comfortable with the idea of following her father’s religious expectations. “…three years ago, my father’s God stopped being my God. His church stopped being my church. And yet, today, because I am a coward, I let myself be initiated into that church. I let my father baptize me in all three names of that God that isn’t mine anymore.” (Butler, Pg. 7) Butler’s use of the word “coward” highlights that Lauren has never expressed to her father that her religious beliefs are different from his; her self-loathing indicates suppressed guilt she has on herself and when compared to the very beginning of Chapter 1, we see that there’s a contradiction between how she feels. She stresses herself over not meeting the expectations that her father wants her to have. However, here, she feels guilty about not expressing herself and separating from these expectations.
We also see it through her relationship with God. It’s already been noted that the way Lauren views God is different from her father, meaning that her idea of God wouldn’t match the standard Baptist or Christian beliefs that her father abides by. Instead, she has a more neutral stance, “I feel no love for or loyalty to my God. My God just is.” (Butler, Pg. 26) Instead, she views God as a mold, where he is, “shaping us and being shaped by us in no particular way…” (Butler, Pg. 26) Her idea of God is bothersome even to her, stating that her idea and how she analyzes God, “won’t let me alone, won’t let me forget it…I’m stuck with it.” (Butler, Pg. 26) These pieces of evidence emphasize that she even struggles to meet expectations spiritually, she feels “different” it’s something that won’t “leave her” and something that she is “stuck with” inferring that this again is an internal conflict that she is having between herself and her father as even she’s stated that, “In spite of what my father will say or do to me…I’ll have to do something about it.” (Butler, Pg. 26) meaning she wants to abide by her beliefs and express them clearly one day, even if it’s against her own father’s ideas even admitting, “That reality scares me to death.” (Butler, Pg. 26)
In Conclusion, Parent-Child relationships built on expectations create a fearful mental environment for the child to internalize in.



